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Dressing the Bridesmaids

Carry your wedding style through to your bridal party's look.

From patterns to colors to accessories, your wedding party's attire should reflect your own style. While there are some traditional guidelines based on time of day and wedding formality (see below), these aren't hard and fast rules. Here are some ideas for getting the look you want.

Since your bridesmaids will be seen right next to you throughout the ceremony, it's especially important that their outfits complement your gown. They could wear dresses similar to yours in style and formality. Or perhaps some element of your gown, such as a lace pattern or beading, might be incorporated into the bridesmaids' dresses. Matching accessories are another way to create a unified look, such as gloves in the same style as yours.

Be sure to consider your bridesmaids' figure types and coloring when selecting dresses. For example, backless gowns can be uncomfortable for big-busted women who really need a bra, while strapless gowns are awkward for the small-busted; a cut that's dramatic on a voluptuous maid might overwhelm a petite one, and so on. Dress color can be another stumbling block: a redhead might feel miserable in pink, or an olive-skinned friend might rebel at yellow. If your bridal party includes a range of sizes, shapes and coloring, consider letting them select different - but coordinating - gowns, which is an increasingly popular approach.

Two options that still provide a cohesive look:

Pick one manufacturer and color and let maids choose their own gown styles within that collection. This is a great way to accommodate different figure types.

Pick one standard element, such as a black ballgown skirt, and let attendants select their own tops in a range of complementary shades. This is a good way to accommodate different complexions and hair colors.

Wearing matching accessories, such as jewelry or gloves, pushes differently dressed attendants a notch towards the identical effect; letting each one pick her own shoes and accessories adds to the individual effect. Both approaches are perfectly acceptable; as long as the overall styles and degree of formality generally reflect the bride's gown, unmatched outfits can provide visual interest - and lead to happier maids.

Bridesmaids are traditionally responsible for purchasing their gowns, accessories and shoes. However, if you're feeling generous, you can offer to pay for all of the dresses while the bridesmaids pay for all of their accessories and shoes. If there's someone you want as your attendant who you know can'not afford the cost, you might offer to purchase her gown (keep that between the two of you). Another way to help defray expenses is to offer to pay the deposit (usually 50% of the purchase price) on all your bridesmaids' gowns as your gift to them. This is especially nice if they'll incur travel expenses to get to your wedding.